Is how you feel getting in the way of you enjoying your life?
Are you feeling tired, stressed out, drained, and just not yourself? Maybe you are having a difficult time focusing on work or other daily obligations. Perhaps you struggle understanding why you feel the way you do. What if you have been trying to feel better and “get over” something; however, you haven’t been successful at it feeling even more depressed. Are you going through a difficult life transition—career change; retirement, death of a loved one; break up or divorce?
You might be a parent struggling with your child who simply doesn’t listen to you. Maybe you have experienced unsatisfactory relationships in your life, and you might be loosing hope for finding a true love. Maybe you have a pattern of getting involved in unhealthy relationships. Are your friends and family member expressing concern for you and advise you to seek professional support? Perhaps, you feel like you just want to somehow get through the day, and as a result, you are not engaged with people and activities around you.
If you feel overwhelmed, counseling can help!
It is often easier to sort things out with another person. It is normal to seek support when you feel alone in your struggles. Speaking with a therapist who is objective can help you see things from a different perspective. It can help you feel like you can manage and take control of your life again. I can help if you are:
- Struggling with your interpersonal relationships
- Going through a difficult life transition
- Feeling confused about what to do
- Having difficulty staying present
- Experiencing anxiety and depression
- Noticing numbing your feelings
- Feeling burned out as a parent
We all need extra help sometimes and that is okay
It is normal to struggle when you loose a relationship that you carried for, or when you moved to a new city and you are feeling alone. People try different strategies to cope with their feelings. They may try to escape from their problems and feelings by getting involved with substances and drugs; by overeating; shopping too much; or isolating themselves. It can be dangerous to turn to these coping strategies that bring only temporarily relief, but on a long run, they may make you feel guilty and ashamed. Sometimes, even the more healthy coping strategies, such as talking with friends or reading self-help books might not make a difference.
Suppressing or running away from difficult feelings is not good for our physical and mental health. It can impact your daily functioning, such as memory and focus. Unquestionably, it will impact the way you connect and relate to other people. Talking to someone who can help you name, organize, and de-escalate your emotional state can help. It is comforting to feel understood and seen—especially at times when you feel misunderstood, doubtful, and unnoticed.
But wait, counseling can get expensive and time consuming
Yes, therapy can be expensive. It is so much easier to spend money on a massage, football game, spa day, or a nicer dinner. Indeed, spending money on these pleasures sounds more appealing; however, if you don’t feel good emotionally, you may either not fully enjoy theses activities or they may feel like a temporary distractions from what really is going on. After that football game or a spa day, you may still feel depressed, anxious, lonely, doubtful, and overwhelmed. It makes sense to invest in your mental health first, so that you can enjoy and appreciate your daily pleasures of life.
It is hard to admit that you might need counseling, and you may feel ashamed of needing help
It is not easy to open up to a strange person and talk about your problems. A lot of people perceive needing counseling as a sign of weakness. I see it as a sign of courage, and I want to help you see it that way too. Counseling can bring a relief and comfort and reaching out for help might be the best thing that you have done for yourself.
Out of hundreds of therapists out there, why should you choose me?
I am so glad that you are thinking that. This is your treatment, and you need to make sure that you feel comfortable with me and that what I have to offer resonates with you.
What makes me an effective individual therapist is the fact that I understand how relationships work. I am also a couples’ therapist, so I know how relationships work and how they fall apart. Often times, individual therapists don’t have training in couples’ counseling, and they simply don’t know enough about love.
If after our free phone conversation or initial meeting you don’t feel like I am the right fit, I will be happy to refer you out to someone who might.
Clients who work with me have mentioned on multiple occasions that I truly listen to them, and “get them.” They said that despite English being my second language, they appreciate my simple, yet in-depth reflections of their experiences. They also report trusting my skills. They know that if we were to “get stuck” in treatment, I will consult on their behalf, and make sure that everything possible is done to improve their well being.